Vojislav,
If you're willing to use a customisation then there is something you might want to try. If you delay answering the call and do it explicitly from the Studio application after the root document and initial setup steps are completed rather than immediately when the VRU leg is setup, the caller will just hear a bit more ringback. At the point you answer the call, the root doc will have been served and the TCP window size should have widened also. The customisation involves commenting-out the command to answer the call in bootstrap.tcl and use of a custom element or VoiceXML Insert to explicitly answer the call at the point required in the application. The attached doc shows the delayed answer principle in a slightly different scenario. Let me know if you need more information.
Janine,
Have you ever tried setting <setting name="vxml_error_handling">minimal</setting> in the gateway adapter as detailed in the SRND.
Geoff,
Why wait to be asked? There's no guarantee that things will get done but you should feel free to use the forum for feedback.
Paul